Following are my most requested workshops and topics about which I’m currently passionate. I often create custom content for groups, so if there’s something you’re looking for that isn’t here – reach out!
Classes Titles by Category (Alphabetical Listing Follows)
Bottoming
- Aftercare : What it is, How to plan for it, and from whom you can get it.
- Edge Play from the Bottom Up : Predator and Prey
- Predicament Play from the Bottom’s Point of View
Communication
- Aftercare : What it is, How to plan for it, and from whom you can get it.
- BDSM without Safewords : Exploring Consensual Non-Consent (CN-C)
- Connecting Through Rope
- Edge Play from the Bottom Up : Predator and Prey
- How to Give and Receive Feedback about Scenes
- How to Improve your Relationship while Talking about it : Compassionate Communication
- Negotiation 301: Freestyle: On-the-fly Negotiation Techniques for Experienced Players
- Submissives’ Round Table
Philosophy
- Empathy, EQ, and BDSM – Theory and Practice
- I AM : Identity and BDSM
- The Way of D/s : A Context for Power and Authority Exchange
Power Exchange
- Practical Skills for Building your D/s Relationship
- BDSM without Safewords : Exploring Consensual Non-Consent (CN-C)
- Empathy, EQ, and BDSM – Theory and Practice
- How to Improve your Relationship while Talking about it : Compassionate Communication
- Submissives’ Round Table
- The Way of D/s : A Context for Power and Authority Exchange
Rope Bondage
- Connecting Through Rope
- Rope Bottoms’ Roundtable : A Facilitated Skill Share
SM Play
- Aftercare : What it is, How to plan for it, and from whom you can get it.
- Breathwork for BDSM
- Empathy, EQ, and BDSM – Theory and Practice
- How to Give and Receive Feedback about Scenes
- How to Improve your Relationship while Talking about it : Compassionate Communication
- Negotiation 301: Freestyle: On-the-fly Negotiation Techniques for Experienced Players *intermediate/advanced
- Pain Processing
- Predicament Play from the Bottom’s Point of View
- Sensational : The Realm of the Senses in Play
Sex Positive Yoga™ (formerly Yoga for Kinksters™) . A category of its own
Alphabetical Listing
Aftercare : What it is, How to plan for it, and from whom you can get it.
It’s a buzz word – ‘aftercare’…. Like the buzzword “communication”, there is a lot of rhetoric around ‘you should do it’… and often not very much depth as to the how’s and why’s. This class aims to balance some of that. We’ll define aftercare, discuss several different types of aftercare, explore ways to ensure your aftercare needs are met, and talk about who is responsible for giving it.
Bottoming, Communication, SM Play
All Levels
BDSM without Safewords : Exploring Consensual Non-Consent (CN-C)
Once consent is established, what happens when you and your partner choose to take it away? How can you establish a solid foundation of trust and faith prior to establishing CN-C. What are the differences between CN-C in a scene and CN-C in a relationship? We’ll go over some definitions and contexts and then dive into a facilitated discussion of this form of Edge Existence.
Communication, Power Exchange,
Intermediate/Advanced
Breathwork for BDSM
Grounding, Connection, Emotional Resilience and Pain Processing – these are all aspects of BDSM that can be impacted by the conscious (mis)use of breath. Join Bendyogagirl for an experiential workshop on several breathwork techniques, in which you will learn the technique and talk about how it fits in with BDSM.
SM Play
All Levels
Connecting Through Rope
This highly experiential workshop is aimed towards cultivating skillfulness in using rope bondage as a means to create intimacy and connection. We will practice several exercises that help to practice emotional awareness, proprioception, and breath. All you need to know is how to tie a shoe. Please wear comfortable clothes in which you can move.
Rope Bondage, Communication
All Levels
Edge Play from the Bottom Up : Predator and Prey
Edge Play – the stuff that ‘they’ do. You know, the dangerous stuff. Join Bendy for a delightful and insightful discussion of Edge Play from the perspective of the Bottom. Using discussion and demonstrations, we will discuss some of the types of edge play, limits, boundaries, consent and more.
Communication, Bottoming
Intermediate/Advanced
A note to producers: In order to teach this class, I will need a top with whom to work – strong preference for someone I know. If I am traveling solo, it is highly probable that at least one of my friends is at your event.
Empathy, EQ, and BDSM – Theory and Practice
This highly experiential workshop is all about empathy and how it helps us all in BDSM play. We’ll do exercises, break down some demonstrations, and more. Empathy is critical for interpreting nonverbal communication. If you do *any* edge play, these skills are critical for both tops and bottoms.
Philosophy, SM Play, Power Exchange
All Levels
How to Give and Receive Feedback about Scenes
This is a highly experiential class that focuses in on a feedback mechanism that is aimed towards giving data to your partner(s) in such a way that they can use it to help co-create more fun the next time you play. With Bendy facilitating and live demos, learn how answering three simple questions can give a wealth of information. You’ll be able to use this in real life, too!
Communication, SM Play
All Levels
How to Improve your Relationship while Talking about it : Compassionate Communication
Back, in school, we learned how to do quadratic equations. Many of us learned how to diagram sentences. We even learned what a water molecule is made of. How many of us learned how to communicate without getting defensive – without minimizing or negating someone else’s experience, and in such a way that makes the bridges between people stronger, even if there is a conflict? If you want to understand others more – and to be better understood, then this class is for you. Bendy will introduce you to techniques used by different spiritual traditions as well as those by a PhD who coined the phrase: Non Violent Communication.
Communication, SM Play, Power Exchange
All Levels
I AM : Identity and BDSM
What do you mean when you say “I am a ________” and how might it expand or contract your understanding of self and other? Bendyogagirl will facilitate a conversation about identity as it relates to BDSM……
Philosophy
All Levels
Negotiation 301: Freestyle: On-the-fly Negotiation Techniques for Experienced Players
You’ve got some experience below your belt, and now you’re playing with other people who have experience. Bendy will engage several mini-scenes that she will negotiate on the fly, and break down step by step. There will be plenty of room for conversation, reflection, and sharing. This class is for experienced players and for people who are new to the lifestyle and curious about what the road ahead may look like
Communication, SM Play
Intermediate/Advanced
Pain Processing
Ooh- AhhhOUCH! Pain. We all have it at times, and when it’s part of a scene –wanted or not –we need to process it. Join Bendyogagirl for some live demonstrations of pain and how to process it. You’ll have opportunity to practice the techniques, share your experiences, and even do some exercises.
SM Play
All Levels
Predicament Play from the Bottom’s Point of View
What’s going on in the mind of the bottom when they are tied up, trussed, clamped, stamped and struggling? This class explores that. Where many (not all) predicament classes show strategies to create , this class focuses on the inner workings of bottoms in different predicament situations.
SM Play, Bottoming
All Levels
A note to producers: In order to teach this class, I will need a top with whom to work – strong preference for someone I know. If I am traveling solo, it is highly probable that at least one of my friends is at your event.
Rope Bottoms’ Round Table : A Facilitated Skill Share
This is a gathering of rope bottoms and for rope bottoms in which we will all participate in a facilitated discussion that is centered around best practices and skill sharing. Bendy will keep us on track, and everyone is encouraged to share.
Rope Bondage, Bottoming
All Levels
Sensational : The Realm of the Senses in Play
How can you use and manipulate the senses to create and shift your experience during play? Join Bendyogagirl for some lively discussion and demonstrations in the use and (mis)use of the senses during play.
SM Play
All Levels
Submissives’ Round Table
Join Bendyogagirl for a facilitated conversation for and among submissives and slaves. The format of the conversation is set – the agenda will be determined by those in attendance. We’ll do a brief check-in, and then talk about ‘what’s up’. If you switch, please attend with your sub/slave mindset engaged. Bendy has been facilitating these kinds of conversations since 2009. If you’ve attended MAsT meetings and/or Vi Johnson’s circles, this will feel familiar.
Communication, Power Exchange
All Levels
The Way of D/s : A Context for Power and Authority Exchange
Taoism is a philosophy of contrast and polarity, and it is through the contrast of yin and yang, that Taoists find The Way – the path of balance. Balance doesn’t mean equality – and it doesn’t map to identity. It is about energy, tendencies, and ‘natural order’. In this class, Bendy will present a primer on this ancient tradition, define the poles of the Tao, and offer a Taoist model for authority and power exchange which is based on the qualities yin and yang.
Philosophy, Power Exchange
All Levels
Yoga for Kinksters: The Original
This all-levels (really) class is for anyone with a spine and breath. We will do some simple standing stretches that you can do seated if you need accommodation. Then we will go to the floor and do more work, that you can stay seated for if you need accommodation. This is fun-filled and one of Bendy’s most popular classes
Yoga
All Levels
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